We are taught to doubt ourselves. We are not taught that we are perfect exactly as we are. We are not taught that we are the source of love. The perfection with which we are born is not nourished; in fact, quite the opposite occurs. We are taught that there is something fundamentally wrong with us, and then we begin to modify and alter ourselves in order to match what we think is expected of us.
We begin to doubt ourselves and then to seek reassurance externally. Everything we learn is based on the need to change our essence. It is all based in fear: “You have to be like this, you have to focus on this, you need to be the best, you need to be successful, you need to be beautiful, you need to be young, you need to own this and that. ” No one says to you: “You are absolutely perfect, you were always perfect, God makes no mistakes.”
Instead we hear things like “Shut up, don’t cry, don’t get angry, you’re too small, you’d need to be taller, you’re not going to be any good at football, what are you going to do now? Everyone in our family is a doctor. What do you mean you don’t want to be a doctor? When are you getting married and having children? Don’t tell me you’re gay! No one in our family is gay! Don’t be ridiculous, it’s just a stage.”
We are taught that there is something wrong with us, that we have something so wrong that we have to hide it; that we are not perfect, we are not unique. And we wonder why we are full of anxiety? We believe that we are the problem, that we are not good enough and that we will never be good enough. We try to be what is expected of us to gain approval, all the while feeling we are not capable of anything, and this conflict provokes a state of ongoing anxiety inside of us.
We fundamentally do not love ourselves, and we constantly look for someone on the outside to confirm that we are not good enough because that is exactly how we feel internally. Our anxiety is a sort of desperate quest to fix what we perceive to be broken. But if we simply nurtured our innate perfection, we would empower each other rather than shame one another, and we would support ourselves and each other to be the best of what we are in all our unique representations. This would mean the end of conflict in the world.
Instead of a world marked by stress and anxiety, we would experience a world of progressive, happy, proactive people, united in love and focused on loving themselves. We would find joy in our differences as if they were different flavors or colors, instead of feeling so bad internally that we try to pull everyone else down, like insecure children – or even worse: insecure adults!
But the love is always there inside of us. Our experience of what seems good, bad, or indifferent has no bearing on the true experience of love. Things may not turn out as we want them to; maybe you even feel that something is a total disaster. It’s in that moment that you most need to connect with an inner experience of love, that you need to cultivate this experience and find the silence, peace and fulfilment that lie beyond the drama and the suffering. It’s in this moment that you need to focus on consciousness.
Consciousness is not a pill you take to cure your anxiety; you are not going to take a pill when you feel bad and get better immediately. It’s not like that. It needs to be a choice in every moment, no matter what is happening on the outside, because when this experience begins to expand you will realize that there is nothing more beautiful than that, nothing more important. It becomes your only attachment: your consciousness, your peace, your love, that energy, that inner security that is always there. It is yours and it is eternal. It’s not a pill, it’s your complete being.
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