We are taught to be afraid. We are not taught that we are perfect exactly as we are, we are not taught that we are the source of love. The perfection with which we are born is not nourished, in fact it is the opposite. We are taught that fundamentally there is something wrong with us, and then we begin to modify and alter ourselves.
We begin to doubt ourselves and then to seek externally, and everything we learn is based on the need to change our essence. It is all based in fear: “you have to be like this, you have to focus on this, you need to be the best, you need to be successful, you need to be beautiful, you need to be young, you need this and that. ” No one says to you: “You are absolutely perfect, you were always perfect, God makes no mistakes”.
No instead we hear: “Shut up, do not cry, do not get angry, you’re a little small, you’d need to be taller, you’re not going to be good at football, what are you going to do now? Everyone in our family is a doctor. What do you mean, you do not want to be a doctor? When are you getting married and having children? Do not tell me you’re gay! No one in our family is gay! Do not be ridiculous, it’s just a stage” They all teach us that there is something wrong with us, that we have something so wrong that we have to hide it. We are not perfect, we are not unique. And we wonder why we are full of fear?
We fundamentally do not love ourselves and constantly need someone on the outside to confirm that we are not good enough, because that is how we feel internally. But if we simply nurtured that perfection, we would empower each other, we would support ourselves to be the best of what we are in all our unique representations, there would be no conflict in the world.
It would be a world of progressive, happy, proactive people, united in love, loving themselves. We would be enjoying our differences as if they were different tastes or colors, instead of feeling so bad that we try to pull everyone down, like insecure children, or even worse, as insecure adults. But love is always there: the good, the bad, the indifferent, does not make a difference because love is always there. Things may not be turning out as you want, maybe it’s all a disaster and that’s when you need to connect with inner love, cultivate that experience, find the silence, peace and fulfilment that are beyond all dramas and all suffering. It is at this moment that you need to focus more. Consciousness is not a Band-Aid; you are not going to put on a Band-Aid when you feel bad and be better immediately. It’s not like this, it must be a choice in every moment, no matter what is happening on the outside, because when this experience begins to expand you will realize that there is nothing more beautiful than that, nothing more important. It becomes your only attachment: your consciousness, your peace, your love, that energy, that inner security that is always there. It is yours and it is eternal. It’s not a Band-Aid, it’s your complete being.
Isha Judd is an Australian humanitarian spiritual teacher based in Latin America, author of “Love Has Wings” and “Why Walk When You Can Fly?”. Watch “Why Walk When You Can Fly?” on itunes. Her website is www.ishajudd.com. Watch more movies and inspiring videos at isha.tv
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Original article taken from On mogul